Having good communication skills is a must in today's world.
These days you are not judged on how good you are in your academics but how well you converse with people, how well you can lead a group of people. The corporates of the present world are looking for leaders rather than followers. And a leader must have good communication skills or people skills. And the best time to cultivate those skills is when you are a student. (Doesn't mean that grown-ups cannot learn).
But what is currently happening is that students don't get really get to know how to develop these skills because of the hectic schedule they face. Because of it, many hesitate a lot when they have to speak to someone new. And many don't even know how important is communication skills!
Even I am a student, and I know how much time we get to spend on self-improvisation. Hence instead of attending any master class by paying a lot of money, here is a short article that is very easy to understand and instantly boosts your communication skills.
10 Communication Hacks You Must Know To Become Successful Quickly:
1. Stop Texting! Start Talking
This is the main problem for each and every student these days. Since the digital age has so much impact on our lives, even if they have to communicate with their friend, guess what? They text them. Facebook, Whatsapp, Snapchat, and so many other chat platforms have almost made the younger generation forget about oral communication.
I am not saying that it's bad, but just think, when you can call and talk, why to just keep texting all the time? Too much texting causes pain in your thumbs.
Start communicating orally and you will find a step up in your communication skill.
2. Body Language
Now that you have somewhat improved your verbal communication, it's time to check your body language. Did you know? Whatever you say through your words is just about 40 percent of the total talk! The majority of how well your communication goes (meaning how well did you convey your opinion/point) relies on your Body Language.
These are some crucial tips that you must follow:
- Never keep your arms folded while you are talking. This shows that you're not interested in a talk. So when the front person comes to know you're not interested in a conversation, why will it continue?
- Keep your focus on the person. Don't divert it to objects around you. Have an eye to eye talk. This way not only shows you're interested but also that you listen well to his words.
This brings me to the next topic.
3. Be a Good Listener
Look, to be a good speaker, you need to be a good listener.
Why? to convey something, you must know it. And for acquiring that knowledge, you must listen to those who already know it.
I know, sitting in a stationary position and listening to speech is very boring. But remember, if you have to give(convey), you must first have(listen).
4. What do you wanna say?
Don't start a conversation without any subject when you're a newbie. Have a clear cut idea of what you will be saying.
Especially if the language is not well known to you, it's better to talk with a purpose.
You may ask something, or share your knowledge. But have Clarity. Clarity is power. So make sure you have it while starting a talk.
5. Look Confident
It's very important to make the other person know that you are confident enough. What I mean here is that you shouldn't be very nervous particularly when asking something. Even if you are, don't show it to the other person. Sometimes you may sweat, but remember to wipe it off. Or sometimes you may feel short of words.
In that case, remember your purpose of why you started the talk, just say that, and finish it. Because these times usually occur when you are meeting that person for the first time. And the First Impression must be good.
If you need more assistance on how to look confident, like what sort of body language you must have and other important questions, just feel free to check out this article of mine by clicking the text below:
6. Be Serious in your talk; don't be too casual
Remember, whenever you talk to a person, the first thing that he/she wants to know is whether you're serious about the talk or you just came to have fun. Don't be too casual when you are talking. That shows you're not at all interested in what you want info you want from the other person.
By reading till here, you must have got a brief idea of how to convince the person that you are interested and serious about other person's talk. I don't mean to be too serious or formal. 't But just don't make the person think that you didn't come for a genuine talk.
7. Value Their Words; have respect for them
Before you continue your talk, you need to understand that you must value the other person's words. Or to say simply, you must be down to earth by not thinking you're superior to them. Remember, not only in verbal communication but giving respect to the other person is a basic moral value taught to us in schools.
While in a conversation, don't take the other person for granted. In this way, you'll just indirectly disgrace the other person.
8. Avoid using "Uh"
Almost everyone who is a newbie in learning the skill of professional communication usually uses too much of "uh"
sound in their talk. Don't think that I am a different kind of person who didn't do this at all. I too have used this sound in my talks. Many times(Still I do sometimes). But I have reduced its usage as much as possible. Now, what is the problem with this? Let me tell you in a brief way.
You must have noticed you just subconsciously use this sound without even having control over it. Why? It's because when you think of something in your mind and are talking, this usually happens. But more than that it primarily happens because you don't get the right word at the right time! Also, when you're unsure about a particular subject you're talking about. So just by having a brief knowledge about the subject, you can overcome excessive use of this sound while you're conversing.
Whenever you don't immediately come to know what to say next it's like filling that gap with "uh". So can you avoid this even subconsciously? Well, it gradually stops when you begin to learn more words, engage in more talks, listen to people who are already professional in English communication.
But if you want to get a better grip on it, I recommend remaining silent instead of pronouncing it. Though you're still learning to communicate well, you will surely have enough bundle of words to pick the right one and say it. Try avoiding to remain silent unusually for long.
But let me say, using the "uh" sound is sometimes necessary. Especially when you are not agreeing to something/someone's opinion.
9. Put Your Words in the Right Sequence (Sentence Construction)
Not Everybody faces this problem, but still, a few do. English is particularly a language I've seen where jumbling the words in a sentence doesn't work out, unlike many other languages.
If you are having a really hard time putting the words in the right way /sequence, you can just watch interviews, or listen to podcasts, and eventually, you'll automatically this problem will be fixed.
10. At last but not the Least, Keep a Smile on your Face
I have often observed that people talk less with a person who always has a very serious expression. And usually, these talks only remain up to a formal level or end very shortly. But if you want to have a good and long conversation, the first thing is to crack some jokes in middle (if the talk is informal). Or keep a smile on your face (applicable in both formal and informal talks).
Now, why crack jokes and have light entertainment in middle(especially in an informal talk)? That's because when you keep a smile on your face the person in front of you subconsciously relieved of the stress that he has to be perfect in his words while talking to you. And that's difficult.
Bonus Tips:
- Avoid dominating the other person while you are talking to him/her. Meaning that doesn't always expect that the front person must agree to all your opinions. Or avoid showing that you're not happy or do not agree with his/her opinion verbally or non-verbally.
- Your initial talks shouldn't be on highly debatable/heated topics like politics, religion, or sometimes sports, etc.
Conclusion:
Communication is the heart and soul of a human being. With an ever-growing demand for good speakers and convincers or communicators, it's really important to first work on your communication/people skills.
I'm Very Sure that if you follow all these 10 ways or at least follow a majority of them and learn the rest slowly, You'll become a professional speaker in no time.
And I am ready to bet that this skill is a Learnable Skill. It isn't that tough at all to get going to become a professional speaker. Hence, you must develop this skill first rather than specializing in anything else. That can be done later.
But do you know that out of 10 people who read this, only about 2 or 3 take action? And remember, only those who get the fruits climb the tree. Not standing below it and waiting for it to fall down.
Comment Below whoever has decided to take Immediate action or already working on it. Type in with the phrase "Yes! I have Taken Action"
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